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[Stress] Easy Exercise to reduce Your Stress Right Now

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Dec

Health & Wellbeing, Life, Motivation
Tanya Stewart, Esq.
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Easy Exercise to Reduce Your Stress Right Now

Many of you spend every day in a state of at least low-level anxiety.

What you DON’T realize is how much of the weight on your shoulders is coming from worrying about someone else.

Remember, Alphas are RESCUERS. We put on our capes and fly around SAVING people and situations. Worrying about them goes right along with that.

So…let’s do some math! (It won’t hurt, I promise.) 

Exercise to Reduce Your Stress by Noticing What It’s Costing You

1) Hold up your 10 fingers. The 10 fingers represent the TOTAL energy you have each day to accomplish anything you need to get done.

2) Put down 2 fingers for the energy and attention you spend worrying about your Mom. 3 more for your kids. 1 for your mate (2 if you don’t have a mate and are wondering where the hell they are). 2 more for work. Use your own situations & finger count.

3) Math time! Mom’s 2 + Kids’ 3 + Hubby’s 1 + Work’s 2 = 8!        
8 of your 10 ‘fingers’ of daily energy are ALREADY TAKEN. Already “entangled” and occupied thinking thoughts and plotting plans for all THOSE people.

How much do you have left for YOU? I’ve never seen an honest Alpha have more than 5. That meant that rare unicorn Alpha was allowed to use a maximum of 50% of her OWN time and energy for her OWN goals and dreams.

Most Alphas have 2-3 available.(My old score? 2 Family, 2 Husband & 3 My Law Firm = 7 Taken, 3 available.)

Now do you see why you can’t get anything done?

Why you are still in roughly the same spot as last year?

Here’s the Bad News: There is some pretty deep wiring that drives you to do all of this rescuing & worrying and it’s fairly hard to change alone. 

Good News: You CAN do short “Worry Free Zones” on your own!

Tomorrow: Wake up and declare it a Worry About Me Only Day. One day. If all those people can’t get along for ONE DAY without you doing for them, chasing and herding them – you all have a much bigger problem than you think. If you feel too GUILTY to take your One Day, then we really need to talk.

On Wednesday I talked about making intentional time for yourself to be alone. If you can’t follow my advice, it will be because your life is so out of control you AREN’T ALLOWED TO HAVE SPACE IN IT JUST FOR YOU or you are uncomfortable being by alone with yourself.

If you can spot any of these four issues right now:
  • They can’t “do” without you
  • You can’t make the time
  • You feel GUILTY taking the time or
  • You feel weird alone with yourself

Hit Reply and let me MAKE TIME to help you Alpha.


P.S.I spent years hiding behind my To-Do List, which was full of other people’s crap. I was running on my OWN “Don’t Think I Can Do List” which was years overdue. Want to learn to separate worrying about others from your own personal challenges, so you are clear about what is and isn’t yours to do?


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[Self-Care] Why You Need To Make Time To Be Alone…(Especially now)

29

Nov

Health & Wellbeing, Life, Motivation
Tanya Stewart, Esq.
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Why You Need to Make Time to Be Alone…


When was the last time you were alone?

(Clarification: Alone, awake and not rushing to go DO something else?)

We all know that when you love someone, you make space in your life to spend quality time with them. Sooo…when was the last time YOU spent quality time with YOU?

It gets even harder at the holidays. There is a kind of push, rush, and obligation in the air all too often.

Being by yourself is both a SKILL and a Necessity.

Alphas overgive. But Never to ourselves!

When you are alone, with no agenda to rush off to, you are spending quality time with yourself.  You may not remember how to do that. But I will tell you WHY to do it:

MAKE TIME ALONE FOR YOURSELF, INTENTIONALLY BECAUSE:
  1. It proves to you that you DO think you are important and worthwhile
  2. It demonstrates self-care and self-love to your children (especially your daughter!)
  3. It lowers your stress level which protects you from illness
  4. It will feel indulgent and yeah – that is the point!
  5. What you give to YOU, others give to YOU

#5 is spiritual law. If you are frustrated and hurt that people aren’t making time for you, ask yourself if YOU are making time for you?

You can NEVER receive from others what you
will not FIRST GIVE TO YOURSELF.

Here’s the good news – it doesn’t have to be a whole day. Literally, 15-20 mins will help you IF you make it intentional. If you decide that 2:40-3pm is your time and close your door and just sit with you, that works.

You don’t have to “do something”. You can just sit. You can pray, meditate, let your mind drift or ask yourself a question you’ve been stuck on and give that solution ALL THAT SPACE to arrive.

If you WANT to do something, make sure it is something just for YOU. No work ‘work’ allowed. Cat videos on YouTube, a chapter from a romance novel (I have a good reference, just ask!), cleaning out your car.

There’s a little dashboard inside of you and it NOTICES how much you give your children, your mate, your business, your family and your Facebook. And it knows how much you are giving you. When those get too far out of whack and stay off balance long enough, often you get sick.

Sickness FORCES you to give to YOU.

This Holiday season, I challenge you to create 30-45 mins alone, intentionally, before whatever counts as your “big day.” Give yourself a luxury that doesn’t come out of a box: demonstrated love. 

Hit reply and let me know what you will do you in your alone time!


P.S.I am at a place where I can tell my friends and family that I decline an invite to be alone. I didn’t use to be able to do that! I felt like I needed a “better” reason. Now, my happiness IS a good reason!


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[Alpha’s DIY Bundle] Change Your Life for Less than a Movie & Popcorn… (Black Friday Sale!)

24

Nov

Health & Wellbeing, Life, Motivation
Tanya Stewart, Esq.
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BLACK FRIDAY IS HERE!!! (Did you save your $17??)

Our coolest sale of the year is here, and now you can get yourself moving in the right direction with me GUIDING YOU! 

Get the Alpha’s DIY Bundle for you Black Friday Gift to YOU!
(Way better than fuzzy socks or more body mists you WON’T FINISH…)

58 Second Video Below Says What You Get – Hit PLAY

Alpha’s Guide To Life Book – I’ll Guide YOU


VALUED AT $30.00


An Advance PHYSICAL Copy of the Alpha’s Guide to Life! Postage Included in US & Canada.

 

 


Alpha Woman Success Academy Interviews

 


VALUED AT $70.00


The TOP 7 interviews with Alpha Woman Success Academy to download and keep!


Body Image – Forgiveness – Getting Unstuck – Overcoming Fear – Natural Health – Weight Loss Explained – Write a Book in a Weekend

 

 


Gift Certificate for Your $17 BACK = $0

$17.00 – You Get Your $17 Back, So If You Keep Learning, This is F.R.E.E!


Gift Certificate for use for FUTURE Classes and Coaching

from me at Fearless Focus Coaching!


ALL OF IT FOR $17.00! (Less than a Movie & Popcorn)


How does get her Alpha’s DIY Do It Yourself Bundle?


Step 1: Go to FearlessFocusCoaching.com/BlackFriday2017

Step 2: Click on “I WANT THIS BLACK FRIDAY DEAL!!!”

Step 3: Check out with Paypal 


Step 4: And wait! Within 24 hours you’ll get an email with links to download your 7 Interviews. The Alpha’s Guidebook and the gift certificate will each be mailed to you separately!


Step 5: Enjoy beginning to build your better you instead of wondering or waiting anymore! 


I hope you have a Happy Thanksgiving weekend or 


“Happy watch the US shoppers fight over stuff in public” if you are abroad!


***I’ll only send out one reminder on Sunday because I am on holiday and you shouldn’t need a reminder because you should go grab this right NOW. And yes, the price goes UP after 72 hours!


P.S. You have to start SOMEWHERE, SOMETIME. Now. Now is good. Now is $17. Get the Alpha’s Guide to Life, get the 7 Top Academy Interviews and get a gift certificate for your $17 back! = $0.

If you need me to help you MORE than making your New Start for 2018 a total gift, you are in the wrong place!

P.P.S. Yes, clients, you can have it too. (I’m clearly a soft touch for my Alphas.)


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[Gratitude] Easy Gratitude Practice to Take You Into the New Year…

22

Nov

Health & Wellbeing, Life, Motivation
Tanya Stewart, Esq.
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Easy Gratitude Practice to Take You Into the New Year…

I’m sure everyone has already told you to be grateful for all of your “external” things. This is INTERNAL GRATITUDE. I want you to be grateful for the amazing INNER BITS of you that don’t get a lot of airtime.

Eldon Taylor of Inner Talk gave me this practice and I LOVE IT!

When you first wake up – say “Thank You”. I say it out loud no matter how my voice sounds.

Then…. Smile. Just smile for a bit. The action of physically smiling triggers your brain to release “happy chemicals”.

That’s it. It takes less than 30 seconds.

You should do thisevery day, start tomorrow on Thanksgiving Day in the U.S.

Eldon, the world-famous subliminal learning expert, describes this and other amazing goodies in his Alpha Women Success Academy Interview. You can own that interview + 6 others + something AWESOME for Alphas you WANT.

You just need to hold onto $17 on FRIDAY. (In the US, that’s one movie ticket plus popcorn). 

And YES, I may be the ONLY one actually releasing a Black Friday sale ON Black Friday. Call me Old Fashioned!! So make sure you dig through the rubble in your inbox to find me.

(If you pay attention, you’ll see that I figured out how to make your Black Friday Goodies F.R.E.E!)
 


P.S. I’m making my traditional 10lb Crock Pot Turkey, Cinnamon Honeyed Sweet Potatoes, Corn Casserole, Salad and will let my guest decide the dessert – either Pumpkin Muffins or my famous Monster Cookies!!

Let me know what YOU are making?

P.P.S.  I cook that meal even if I am alone but I have a cross-country guest to feed this year! One of my besties from UGA Law School, Jon Brown 😊 He once wrote a little jingle to cheer me on in a law school, oral argument competition! “Goooo Tanya go. Go, go, Goooooo Tanya go!” It’s silly and I’ll love it till my last breath. I’m grateful for him.

 


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[Confidence] 1 Thing You DON’T Know About Fear…(but you should)

17

Nov

Health & Wellbeing, Life, Motivation
Tanya Stewart, Esq.
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1 Thing You DON’T Know About FEAR…(but you should)


You can’t reduce FEAR. I’m sorry. Most of us think that you can “turn the knob” down on a fear, much like you’d lower the volume on the car radio.


We think there are things we can do, or say, or places we can “be” that will turn down the fear. Lessen it. It cannot be done directly.


There is no way to PUSH down a fear. When you push against it, energetically it RESISTS you and grows stronger. You can only pull in love.


This is an attraction based universe, which means you can’t really push anything away. The one activity you CAN do is to pull things.


If something is on a pulley, you pull down and it goes up – that’s a good image for this.

 

 

 


When you pull down on the pulley of fear, what really happens is love is coming up!


Practical Application: When something is not working, focus on what can make it better instead of what can stop it from getting worse.


Example: An Alpha fighting with her husband in a shaky marriage. He just said something horrible to you. Again.


If you really want to save this marriage, which of these is the correct focus:


A)   What could make this situation better right now? What can make me feel better right now?                                vs.


B)    What do I need to DO to keep him from saying that dumb $#@! to me again?


A is the winner. It pulls in love with you and is about you.


Example: Your child is scared of the boogie man in the dark. You cannot reason away this fear, i.e., you cannot reduce the fear, turn down the knob or push their fear away. 


What do you do? As a mom you know the answer, you pull in love. You love them up to increase their feeling of security and protection.


You are that little child when things get really bad. When things hit the fan, find a way to pull in some love. 


The Bible says perfect love casts out fear. They are like light and dark, matter and antimatter and cannot occupy the same space. If fear is present, you cannot push it out unless you bring some love in.


Need another example? Guilt and forgiveness. Guilt is a form of fear and forgiveness is a form of love. If you want to lessen guilt, you need to increase the forgiveness. Have you ever just been able to stop feeling guilty??


This lesson applies year-round, for your entire life, but it’s especially important for the holidays. You’ll see fear masquerading as guilt, stress, excess, withdrawal, frustration and blaming.


Do not attack the fear (or your mother-in-law) and attempt to “solve it” Alpha. Turn UP the love in the situation. Sometimes you can do that directly WITH the person that’s the issue or sometimes just making the environment better will help. 


As we approach our respective holidays (my trifecta is Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Year’s Eve) just remember that pulling in love is more reliable than trying to fix the crazy family.
 


P.S.Why am I talking about serious stuff and not giving you my Guilt-Free Dark Chocolate Avocado Cookie recipe? 1 – no one ASKED for my recipe! And 2 – Like I said in Wednesday’s post the holidays are not ALL love and light.

I struggled through them for years and every freaking article I read about how ‘Richard Simmons happy’ I should be, made me feel WORSE! So, the support is here. I love you!

 

P.P.S. Got $17? Save it! I am not immune to Black Friday. We WILL have a cool Black Friday Deal. And, unlike the rest of the damn Universe, it will come out ON Black Friday 😊 You’ll have 72 hours to grab it up before it goes.

 


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