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[Holidays] Deck with Halls with Anxiety & Blues! (One Cure Inside)

15

Nov

Health & Wellbeing, Life, Motivation
Tanya Stewart, Esq.
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Deck the Halls with Anxiety & Blues!! (One Cure Inside)

Yep. Holidays. As a divorce lawyer, I used to marvel at how many people pretend to LIKE the holidays and won’t admit it stresses them out.


Let’s take quick inventory – Count how many of these you associate the Holidays with:

  1. Having to see people you don’t like but can’t leave
  2. Having to clean your house when you don’t have time
  3. Having to cook. A LOT. A WHOLE LOT.
  4. Having to spend money you may not have on gifts, parties and frippery
  5. Having to see your scale inch up
  6. Having to act happy when you may not be
  7. Having to feel guilty at your “first world” problems
  8. Having to go through another __________ this year
  9. Having to travel, buy everything, wrap everything, bring everything and serve everyone
  10. Having to endure the over-commercialization of the holidays

Alphas HATE not having CHOICE and all 10 of those things appear to take away our CHOICE.

Scoring:

0- Means you read this in the toilet, in between phone calls or can’t count.

1-3 Common! Don’t beat yourself up.

4-5 Did you need me to tell you this is not good?

6+ You need a Holiday intervention because you feel trapped in too many ways and have so many associations that hurt, that it’s hard for you to enjoy the moments that DO work.

I have personally gone from an 8 (did NOT like the holidays back then, in my Superwoman days) to a 1. (#10. Just because you stick red glitter on “it” does NOT mean I’m going to buy it.)

Here is ONE CURE

Decide what ONE thing that you WANT to have happened this holiday that would light you up and…PROTECT IT.

Do not permit yourself to LOSE that one thing. Tell your husband and children what it is and ask them for THEIR ONE THING. Everyone agrees to protect each person’s ONE THING. (Where you can, the more your ONE THING doesn’t require others the better!)

You would be shocked at how being able to rely upon, 100%, on a single piece of coming joy can change things for you.

So, if you freakin’ NEED Christmas Eve church service or the kids to sleep in till at least 7 am or to NOT do the damn dishes after the family gathering – then make that the ONE THING and protect it.

Ask for what you need Alpha (the ONE THING).

If the ONE THING you really need is me in your life, kicking your butt with love and making the crooked places straight – ASK FOR IT.  (Don’t assume you can’t afford it!)

2018 can be different. Can be easier with family, safer with money, healthier with your body and more connected to your Source. ASK.

Get your ONE THING and protect it. The rest? Let it go.


 


P.S. Don’t fall into the Holiday extremes! You don’t have to be a Ba Humbug complainer who feels beat up the WHOLE TIME but be careful you aren’t PollyAnna-ing your way through the season either!

If you tell your truth you can enjoy when you ARE happy and own when things are harder and ask for help. Don’t pretend the whole season is “perfect”. Just get your ONE THING.

P.P.S. I think all Alphas need a life-sized Alpha Coach for 2018! Hit reply & tell me the #1 thing you’d get help with next year if you had me…

 


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[Sabotage] NEVER Start at the Beginning

10

Nov

Health & Wellbeing, Life, Motivation
Tanya Stewart, Esq.
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NEVER Start at the Beginning…
 

Seriously. Why not? Because starting at the beginning is about PERFECTIONISM. 

I get it. You want to: 
  • Start where you feel you are supposed to
  • Start where everyone expects you to and
  • Start where it’s easiest.

Starting Where You feel You Are Supposed To and Where Others EXPECT You too are the SAME.

This is you looking for approval. Approval is a fancy word for love. Alphas fear losing love, so we make sure we turn in a good performance because an “A” grade means we are good enough and lovable. 

This is also you looking for “insurance”. If I do it “right”, it has to work. Tell me how to do it “RIGHT,” you say. Tell me exactly where I should BEGIN.

Here’s the funny part. We have been trained that beginning at the “beginning” is easiest.

IT IS NOT.

 

 



It’s actually HARDER because of all the mental gymnastics you have to do to try to IDENTIFY the beginning and convince yourself it’s the right starting spot. All that costs time, money and energy. And it opens the door to doubt, delay and distraction.

Where should you begin? I recommend the middle. Meaning, just begin.

As soon as you begin, you will easily see how to course correct yourself back to the best place to start.

Example?

Let’s say you want to become a motivational speaker. Where in the world do you begin? See how daunting than this? If you start in the middle, you might just grab a course and start trying to book a speech. During that process, you might discover that you are a wiz at outlining your talk and even delivering it but are absolutely AWFUL trying to “sell” yourself on the phone to get booked.

That gives you clear information on a “new”, more useful starting place.

If you just begin, the Universe can course correct you faster and far easier than while you are still in your head, trying to get all of your ducks in a row.

I’ve talked about this before as perfect timing.

Do not attempt to begin at the beginning.

Ever talk to a girlfriend who is sobbing with a broken heart? Do you MAKE her start at the beginning? NO. You let her start the story wherever she CAN and you still get the whole story! Give yourself the same grace and kindness.


Start with the reality of where you are and begin WHEREVER you can, just begin.

 


P.S.  Soon I’ll be talking to you about Joining Alpha Group Coaching Class of 2018 that starts in February. I’ll tell you to start from where you are and just figure out how to get yourself IN. Just figure out how to BEGIN SOMEWHERE. Starting messy is what champions do. Starting perfect is what poor people do.

 

P.P.S. Whatever popped into your head while you were reading – THAT is what you must begin. Do it now. Do something towards it TODAY 🙂

 


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[Goals] What’s A Non-Negotiable Requirement for 100% Success?

08

Nov

Health & Wellbeing, Life, Motivation
Tanya Stewart, Esq.
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What’s A Non-Negotiable Requirement for 100% Success?


What MUST you do if you want to ensure your goal has 100% chance of succeeding?


(And YES! This is a trick question.)


Answer: Start from wherever you actually ARE, at this moment.


You would be surprised at how often everybody wants to start their project, dream, goal, improvement or whatever from the place they are NOT currently at. 


People will decide they’re going to “start changing their lifestyle” once they lose the first few pounds.


People tell me they’re going to start coaching with me as soon as their marriage situation calms down, the kids are stable at school and they’ve saved up some money.


That is the same stuff I help you DO inside of coaching! How are you going to do ALL that without the coaching?!?


So many of you have a persona that you are presenting to the world that is not where you are. (I get it. I did it too.) It’s where you WANT to be. It causes problems.


It’s so common that there is actually a named syndrome for this in psychology – The Imposter Syndrome.


You are afraid that somebody will look at you closely and realize that you’re not all that you appear to be. So you keep holding up this cardboard cut-out of where you think you should be. Where your family says you should be. Where are your other friends might be.


And without realizing it, whenever you go to begin something new, you actually make your plans from that false place. You make plans based on courage, commitment and follow-through you don’t consistently HAVE YET.


You literally adopt this “better you” and PLAN FROM this “better you” and fear discovery that you aren’t there yet.


The Alphas that do really well in coaching with me are the ones who snot nose cry and finally admit that their life is falling the hell apart if it is. Those women have massive changes. We move her from where she IS.

 



Until you can admit the truth of where you are, you cannot receive guidance from your Coach or your Source to CHANGE it.


If you really want to be successful in life and anything, you have to first be able to start from where you are truly at. THAT requires telling some painful truths to yourself and sometimes to others. 


Note: Be sure the ‘others’ that you’re talking to are qualified to receive that type of truth from you or they may hurt you worse. Hint: You can tell me!  

 


My three pillars of coaching are:


Massive truth              -> Massive action   -> Massive transformation


Start from where you are AT and tell the truth. It may not be pretty right now but it WILL be pretty in the end when we get you what you really want. 


Truth is where all sustainable success begins.

 


P.S.  If you don’t uncover the truth that you are avoiding, it will surface in the middle of your plan and ruin things. Best to tackle it now. Ask me how to start from right where you are now.

 

P.P.S. Did you miss the Alpha’s Life ToolKit Training? 90 Mins of Gold and the introduction of the 5 P Tool (yes, you want it.) Watch it here. 

 


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[Success] Why Working TOO Hard Blocks the Dreams You Are Building…AND Alpha ToolKit Class is TONITE!!

03

Nov

Health & Wellbeing, Life, Motivation
Tanya Stewart, Esq.
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Why Working TOO Hard Blocks the Dreams You Are Building…


Working hard can actually be a really BAD SIGN.


Why? Because Alphas are WIRED TO STRUGGLE. It means that we lean toward it. We don’t see the easier path. We miss the well lit, slightly open door.


We are EXPECTING drama, trauma, challenges and f*ckery (Yes, I invented that word and you may use it with my permission!)


Here is what I often see when you are working TOO hard:


1) You are using the wrong TOOLS for your goal


2) You don’t have a PROCESS


3) You aren’t CLEAR on what you REALLY want


4) You aren’t VALUING yourself enough and/or


5) You are trying to “EARN” love/praise somewhere


You know myfavorite two coaching words by now- STOP IT.


Yes, that’s scary. What if your world falls apart because you decided to relax a little?!?


Solution:Find the right TOOLS and PROCESSES to get what you want more EASILY. You need a PLAN different from you already HAVE.


Where should you start?
Tonight’s Class is a great spot to begin…

 


Half of the Alphas that answered my survey said they wanted me to teach the Alpha’s ‘Life Success ToolKit’ 2018 – Basics You MUST Know for Love & Money.

 


BOOM. Done. It’s tonight at 8 pm EST. No charge, just click the photo or the link to register and you’ll be all set.


You can watch from your computer or listen – I have added visuals to the call for you because this is REALLY important to your 2018. 


Learn:


*Why the place you start is often why you FAIL


*The 5 P’s that will change your life 


*My process you can use to bring in LOVE or MONEY or BOTH


You’ll see me send out reminder emails before we start – at 1hr, 15 min and as we begin. That’sbecause y’all get distracted and forget!


I WILL BE COACHING LIVE, so you can ask YOUR questions!

 


P.S. I have the easiest, yet most powerful tool to teach you tonight! I created it, so it’s not anywhere else. And I WILL BE COACHING LIVE, so you can ask YOUR questions during the Alpha’s Life Success ToolKit Class tonite! 

Let’s BUILD something!
Worldwide access from where ever you are!
Friday 11/3 8 pm EST accomdates EST, CST and PST

 

 


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[Laughing] Happy Friday! (Your laugh enclosed)

27

Oct

Health & Wellbeing, Life, Motivation
Tanya Stewart, Esq.
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Happy Friday – 3 Things to Make You Laugh

We can all use a good laugh. Seriously, why do you think YouTube’s cat videos are so freakin’ popular?!

Our bigol’ Alphas brains carry heavy loads all day (and for many of you, all night!)

I’m your coach and in charge of helping you get what you want, so today – it’s laughing.

Laughing releases biochemicals that are GOOD for you. That actually HEAL YOU.

This is a famous story of a man who used laughter to cure himself of cancer.

So below I am including 3 excuses to laugh AND please send me links to yours! I want to have a go-to library of things I can look at that have nothing to do with politics, hatred, race, money or fear. We’ve got squirrels, babies & dogs forlow key, no stress fun! 


Let me know if you laugh or smile hard (that counts)!


Funny Babies   (1:41) 34 Million Views


Squirrel Hiding Nuts in a DOG (0:40) 12 Million Views


Funny Dogs (6:00) 14.6 Million Views

 

Just LOOKING for these 3 was awesome! The ones that DIDN’T make the cut still have me smiling.


P.S. I’m going to do my Facebook Live this morning from Dallas – we’ll see what I can get into that makes us LAUGH!

Keep your eyes open, the Alpha’s ToolKit for 2018 Class – The Things You MUST Know for Love & Money is coming NEXT FRIDAY NIGHT November 3rd – 8 pm EST (that let’s our West Coast Alphas make it)


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